Post: July 14th, 2014
Apparently there are “rules” now when texting someone you are interested in??! WTF?!! I swear to God, in this last week I have had two conversations with two different girlfriends about their text messages with guys. Guys, if you didn’t already know, women analyze EVERYTHING you say, do, don’t do, and now apparently what you text. I don’t know why we do it, we just do.
Anyway, one of my girlfriends called me all excited yesterday because this guy she liked texted her asking her what she was doing. I asked her what she had texted back and she said she hadn’t responded yet. Instead, she called ME FIRST to ask for my help in how to respond. I told her, “Why not just tell him what you are doing right now?” (Isn’t that what he asked? Or was I missing something?) She then told me that there was NOOOO way she could respond immediately. She needed to make him wait a bit and she needed to be very calculated with how she answered him. Oh and she also needed to make sure she ended it with a question to guarantee the conversation would keep going. Ummmmm what??!! I was so confused. Maybe I’ve been out of the game for way too long?
You see, I’m a relationship type of girl. All my life, I’ve been that girl that always has a boyfriend. Saying that or even typing that right now is actually kind of embarrassing. I don’t know what it is or why I am like that but that’s just how it’s always been with me. However, for the first time in a long time I am completely single and honestly not really even looking for anyone. Now don’t get me wrong, if prince charming came along and swept me off my feet tomorrow, then of course I’d be open to it. (I mean, what girl wouldn’t be right?) However, I’m currently not looking for that and I’m actually OK with being by myself. I hate when I see girls miserable about being single. If you are single, take the time to get to know yourself. Take the time to do the things you want to do because one day, you won’t have that time anymore. I personally am really taking this time to get to know me and get to know what makes me happy. I think that sometimes, when you are in a relationship you get so caught up with the other person or doing things for and with that other person that you forget who YOU are. How are you going to make someone else happy when you don’t even know what makes you happy?
The last time I was in the “dating” world was so long ago, I don’t even think text messaging existed, seriously! Therefore this whole “texting etiquette” of waiting before you text back, or analyzing everything that someone writes is completely foreign to me. I had no clue about it until my girlfriends started calling me with all their issues about it. It’s kind of scary quite honestly and seems way too complicated if you ask me.
Therefore this is my take on the new age “texting etiquette.” Women, I don’t think we should look into it as much as we do. Guys are simple and I honestly don’t think they even take the time to think much about it at all. If you like a guy and he texts you then text him back when you can. If that time happens to be right away, then go for it. If you are busy or working or whatever then text him when you are free. Either way, I don’t think much more thought about “when” or “how long to wait” should be put into it. If you don’t like him well then don’t continue texting him. It’s pretty simple.
Let’s not over complicate things. It’s just a damn text message!! I am personally too old to play stupid games so therefore I am choosing to not abide by these new “texting rules” of the new age. I’m just going to keep it old school. If I like someone I will continue the conversation and if they are a bug-a-boo then I won’t. Kapeesh? Till next time….